For whatever reason, I get the urge to write about once a year. Some people from this have been super supportive- obviously there are others who have not been.
So the pandemic has been unusual for most everybody- we were fortunate with the help of a great financial advisor, to make some money from this. We are going to need it, since we have another on the way! (Looks like I can’t escape diaper changes)
This means a lot of changes are coming up for Alyssa- I am anxious on how she is going to feel about them. She will be starting Kindergarten in the fall and will be an older sister.
Now, most of you read this for Sarah- well, we went back to using his birth name. We are trying to not confuse Alyssa, now that she is asking a lot of questions and figuring out about the world. We limit the ‘babying’ activities in public now. The custom stroller we had built for the two of them together will probably not see any use with the new baby. We have removed his custom carseat from the vehicle as well.
We added some rules, which I felt was necessary- but were not the easiest transitions. In public, the diaper is to be covered at all times; the days of walking around in just a t-shirt and diaper are over. We are also trying to replace the skirts and dresses with more shorts and overalls. There has also been a transition in the color palette of his clothes. I refuse to buy anything new that is pink or overtly little girlish. This is not as much as a rule, but something I am trying to do to help Alyssa. I try to pick out his outfit the night before because he will still pick out some of the items I am trying to fade out of his wardrobe. Although, sometimes I still can’t avoid putting them into matching outfits- it is kind of cute. I have limited this from occurring in public, even when Alyssa begs to match with Daddy.
There are also no bottles or pacifiers in public. This has been a tough task, as he had gotten used to using these to calm his social anxiety. We have had a few meltdowns in public- luckily an adult meltdown is different from a child’s. It doesn’t really become much of a scene, he just freezes and starts crying. Occasionally, the sobs become loud as he gasps for air- this is when it becomes embarrassing; however, he knows why, so he doesn’t beg for them or anything.
We also redid the house, adding on a section. We have moved our bedroom and a playroom for him in the new section- moving his playroom, toys, and adult baby items in the add-on. There is a hallway, leading to one door- which is our bedroom. The only access to his playroom is through our bedroom. We also removed his ‘swing’ from the living room into the playroom, along with his crib, high chair, custom walker, and the larger items. Also , most of the old photos are in the new room. I realize now that it may not have been a great idea to do matching photo shoots with Daddy and Alyssa but at the time I couldn’t help it. We did have to go redo a family photoshoot to hang in the living room, this time with Daddy wearing a shirt and pants.
The changing table is still in our room, as he still wears 24/7. I have heard that when there is a second child, sometimes the first child is jealous of the attention that the new child gets- so I am hoping Alyssa’s experience with her dad getting diaper changes and some special attention, will help ease her into the new baby phase.
Anyways, that’s the update. Maybe it won’t be another year for my next update lol.
The Mommy Wife 